From Me to We
Being single until I was 40, I spent many of my adult years living with room mates. Usually one or two women would share a house together with me. When I was in my early 20s, I lived in a beautiful house in Seattle with two other single women. Each of us longed to be married one day. But we didn’t want to wait until marriage to experience creating a home and family. So we decided to turn this house into our home. Rather than just being three independent autonomous singles renting rooms in the same house, we decided to create family. We decorated the house together. We looked out for each other. We shared chores and took turns cooking dinner. We hosted dinner parties and Christmas parties. We went to movies together. We scheduled time to spend together, providing that listening ear and safe place to cry. We ran errands for each other. We traded in our ME mindset for a WE mindset.
What happened as a result was the amazing phenomena of community. We created a new entity that was made up of each of our unique personalities and contributions. This new entity had a personality all its own. The larger community of our friends and family knew us, not only as individual single women, but as a home. This was family. It was fun. It was beautiful. And it was great practice in opening our hearts to the loves that would eventually come into our lives.
Where do you see opportunities in your life to build community – to create something that’s greater than the sum of its parts?
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Personal News… I’ve been having fun lately working with Steve to build my coaching practice. This week I attended a big networking event. This is where people go around the room meeting each other and find out what the others do – to see opportunities for collaboration in business. I was meeting real estate agents, interior designers, web designers, photographers, and personal trainers. It was fun to see eyes get big whenever I said, “I’m a relationship coach for single women.” It’s not your everyday shingle to hang out there. But it sure brings a reaction! Anyway, I met some wonderful people who I look forward to getting to know in more depth. Who knows what may develop…
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Which brings me to an important announcement… This coming Tuesday evening, from 7-8 PM Pacific Time, I’ll be hosting an information call for those who are interested in learning about the Break Through Into Love group coaching program for single women. This is a fun, interactive, valuable time where you’ll gain some clarity about your vision for relationship as well as some clues as to what may be blocking your ability to attract your life partner. You’ll learn about the Break Through Into Love course and have an opportunity to get all your questions answered. Click here to contact me so I can send you the call in information. Bonus points if you bring a friend.
Tags: community, Friendships, Girlfriends, Home, relationships
February 26th, 2012 at 9:38 pm
It brought back great memories reading your post about our home back when we were single. That was a great time in my life sharing a home with you and Jackie. You both were so encouraging to me during that time. I was so shy back then. Love you Fawn! This is a great ministry for you.
February 27th, 2012 at 9:55 pm
Thanks for commenting, Candy. You and I share some sweet memories of a happy home. I’m so glad I got to share that with you.
And yes, this is a work I’m very passionate about.